Mindfully Managing the Mania

Welcome to the December Mindful Mama Carnival: Staying Mindful During the Holiday Season
This post was written for inclusion in the Mindful Mama Carnival hosted by Becoming Crunchy and TouchstoneZ. This month our participants
have shared how they stay mindful during the holiday season. Please read to
the end to find a list of links to the other carnival


We find this time of year incites “the gimmies”. Are you familiar with “the gimmies”?  I had experienced the gimmies before, but didn’t know the name of it until the Berenstain Bears explained it to me.You know it’s that feeling that kids (and adults, too) get when they want something, then something else..gimme this, gimme that! What’s a Mama to do? Commercialism is at its height this time of year and “the gimmies” are sure to come a knockin’.

I’m more of a saver than a spender; my husband tends to be the one to spend more. However, I hate to pass up a good deal. So even this time of year can give me “the gimmes”. Just because something is on sale, does that mean I need to buy it? I recently was part of a discussion on the difference between a “need” and  a “want”. It can get confusing this time of year for many. Just because something is a good deal,  it doesn’t mean you have to over consume. Once again, balance comes into play. This is an excellent lesson for everyone in the family to learn.
Parents need to be on alert to all of the incoming advertisements bombarding their children from print and screen. Turning off the TV and recycling those toy catalogs are great ways to avoid the “gimme” trap. I read the suggestion of making a list of things you “want”. Keep that list and if in 30 days it’s something you still want, then consider purchasing it. This prevents impulse buying. Then do your research in deciding where you want to make this purchase. Choose to make a thoughtful decision, not a rushed one.  It’s also a great idea to have requirements for purchases that reflect the values of your family. For example, does your family value organic and fair trade practices? Is buying local or supporting small businesses important to you? If these reflect your family values, then staying away from the large, big box stores may be a good idea. There is no reason to tempt yourself and set yourself up for disappointment.  If this is something important to your family then it makes sense to avoid going to the malls and stores that you don’t want to support with your money. When buying gifts, be conscious in your decisions. Make lists, do your research and support companies and people that are in line with your values. By avoiding “the gimmies” and thinking through your purchases you should be able to mindfully manage the mania. You may also enjoy a post I wrote on Compassionate Consumerism. How do you manage the mania at your home?

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Compassionate Consumerism

Welcome to the April Carnival of Natural Parenting: Compassionate Advocacy
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When I was fourteen I remember babysitting and working on weekends as a bus girl at a restaurant. This was the first time in my life that I had my very own money. This was the first time that I could decide where I wanted to spend my money. This was also around the same time that I became a vegetarian and opposed to the animal testing of cosmetics and other products. So I used my money to buy makeup from Beauty Without Cruelty. At that time, I had to send for it in England. I couldn’t stand the thought of my money going to support companies that were testing their products on animals. I also bought myself a t-shirt that read “Compassionate Consumer” in big green letters across the front and it had a hand drawn picture of animals escaping from the testing laboratories.
I still consider myself to be a compassionate consumer and hope to teach these values to my children. Today I am still very concerned about who or what my money is going to support.  I am so thankful that it is easier to buy products that aren’t tested on animals. My concerns now are more turned to the people who make the products that we consume. If you are buying products that are made in developed countries you pretty much know that for the most part the person was paid a standard living wage and treated with some amount of dignity. This is a problem in many developing countries. That’s where Fair Trade comes in. Companies that are fair trade certified mean their workers were paid a living wage and promote sustainability. This is especially important for certain products such as rice, sugar and chocolate. These products are typically produced under less than ideal situations for the workers.
I try very hard to set a good example for spending money wisely. Big Z sees how we spend our money and I hope this will teach her to make wise decisions with her own money. I strongly believe in supporting local businesses and farmers and not supporting our local mega-mart. So we talk to our kids about buying products that are fair trade and about working conditions in underdeveloped countries. There was a show on Planet Green called “Blood, Sweat, and T-shirts”.  It took you inside the sweatshops and let you see how most of our clothes are made, how rice workers are treated and how families are destroyed by these practices. I don’t think fair trade is the solution to end these problems, but I do hope that by making wise choices with our money, that it will help my children at least think about where they’ll spend their money.
We are getting ready for the farmers market to begin again, and I am so excited. Shopping at the farmers market presents an awesome opportunity to teach about compassionate consumerism. When we buy our veggies from farmers we know, that makes us feel good. We know our money is being put back into our community. We know when we buy our jewelry and handcrafted items directly from the person, we can feel good about that purchase. I tend to be a little more free with my money at the Farmers Market because when I buy local, I am supporting families, not big business.
If you do eat meat, buying meat and dairy from farmers that you know makes you feel good about how the animals were treated. When you meet the farmers you can talk with them and even visit their farms. When I was buying milk from a farmer near my home, I got to meet the cow and see her grazing in the meadow.  I loved what that taught my children. When visiting the farms, you can see the passion and care they treat their animals with, it’s undeniable.  You know you are making the compassionate choice when you support these small farms and say “NO!” to the CAFOs.
While I do not go to extreme lengths to ensure every purchase is fair trade, we do make a conscious effort about choosing where we spend our money for our family. I hope this encourages our children to think about their purchase power and make wise and compassionate choices.

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  • Natural Parenting Advocacy by Example — Jenn at Monkey Butt Junction uses her blog, Twitter and Facebook as her natural parenting soapbox.
  • You Catch More Flies With Honey — When it comes to natural parenting advice, Kate of The Guavalicious Life believes you catch more flies with honey.
  • — Patti at Jazzy Mama searches her heart for an appropriate response when she learns that someone she respects wants his baby to cry-it-out.
  • I Offer the Truth — Amy at Innate Wholeness shares the hard truths to inspire parents in making changes and fully appreciating the parenting experience.
  • Advocating or Just Opinionated?Momma Jorje discusses how to draw the line between advocating compassionately and being just plain opinionated. It can be quite a fine line.
  • Compassionate Advocacy — Mamapoekie of Authentic Parenting writes about how to discuss topics you are passionate about with people who don’t share your views.
  • Heiny Helpers: Sharing Cloth Love — Heiny Helpers is guest posting on Natural Parents Network to share how they are providing cloth diapers and cloth diapering support to low income families.
  • Struggling with Advocacy — April of McApril still struggles to determine how strongly she should advocate for her causes, but still loves to show her love for her parenting choices to those who would like to listen.
  • Compassionate Advocacy Through Blogging (AKA –Why I Blog) — Jennifer at Hybrid Rasta Mama shares how both blogging and day-to-day life give her opportunities to compassionately advocate for natural parenting practices.
  • A Letter to *Those* Parents — Zoie at TouchstoneZ shares how to write an informed yet respectful reply to those parents — you know, the ones who don’t parent the way you do.
  • Why I Am Not A Homebirth Advocate — Olivia at Write About Birth is coming out: she is a homebirth mom, but not a homebirth advocate. One size does not fit all – but choice is something we can all advocate for!
  • Why I Open My Big Mouth — Wolfmother from Fabulous Mama Chronicles reflects on why she is passionate about sharing parenting resources.
  • Watching and Wearing — Laura at Our Messy Messy Life advocates the joys of babywearing simply by living life in a small college town.
  • Compassionate Advocacy . . . That’s The Way I Do It — Amyables at Toddler in Tow describes how she’s learned to forsake judgment and channel her social energy to spread the “good news” of natural parenting through interaction and shared experiences.
  • The quiet advocate — Lauren at Hobo Mama cringes when she thinks of the obnoxious way she used to berate people into seeing her point of view.
  • I Am the Change — Amanda at Let’s Take the Metro describes a recent awakening where she realized exactly how to advocate for natural parenting.
  • Public Displays of CompassionThe Accidental Natural Mama recounts an emotional trip to the grocery store and the importance of staying calm and compassionate in the storm of toddler emotions.
  • I will not hide behind my persona — Suzi Leigh at Attached at the Boob discusses the benefits of being honest and compassionate on the internet.
  • Choosing My Words — Jenny at Chronicles of a Nursing Mom shares why she started her blog and why she continues to blog despite an increasingly hectic schedule.
  • Honour the Child :: Compassionate Advocacy in the Classroom — Lori at Beneath the Rowan Tree shares her experience of being a gentle and compassionate parent — with other people’s children — as a classroom volunteer in her daughter’s senior kindergarten room.
  • Inspired by the Great Divide (and Hoping to Inspire) — Rosemary at Rosmarinus Officinalis shares her thoughts on navigating the “great divide” through gently teaching and being teachable.
  • Introverted Advocacy — CatholicMommy at Working to be Worthy shares how she advocates for gentle parenting, even though she is about as introverted as one can be.
  • The Three R’s of Effective and Gentle Advocacy — Ana at Pandamoly explains how “The Three R’s” can yield consistent results and endless inspiration to those in need of some change.
  • Passionate and Compassionate: How do We do It? — Kelly at Becoming Crunchy shares the importance of understanding your motivation for advocacy.
  • Sharing the love — Isil at Smiling Like Sunshine talks about how she shares the love and spreads the word.
  • What Frank Said — Nada at miniMOMist has a good friend named Frank. She uses his famous saying to demonstrate how much natural parenting has benefited her and her family.
  • Baby Sling Carriers Make Great Compassionate Advocacy Tools — Chante at My Natural Motherhood Journey shared her babywearing knowledge — and her sling — with a new mom.
  • Everyday Superheroes — Who needs Superman when we have a community of compassionate advocates?! Dionna at Code Name: Mama believes that our community of gentle bloggers are the true superheroes.
  • Words of advice: compassionately advocating for my parenting choices — MrsH at Fleeting Moments waits to give advice until she’s been asked, resulting in fewer advocacy moments but very high responsiveness from parents all over the spectrum of parenting approaches.
  • Peaceful Parenting — Peaceful parenting shows at Living Peacefully with Children with an atypical comment from a stranger.
  • Speaking for birth — Lucy at Dreaming Aloud soul-searches about how she can advocate for natural birth without causing offense.
  • Gentle is as Gentle Does — Laura at A Pug in the Kitchen shares how she is gently advocating her parenting style.
  • Walking on Air — Rachael at The Variegated Life wants you to know that she has no idea what she’s doing — and it’s a gift.
  • Parenting with my head, my heart, and my gut — Charise at I Thought I Knew Mama shares her thoughts on being a compassionate advocate of natural parenting as a blogger.
  • At Peace With the World — Megan at Ichigo Means Strawberry talks about being an advocate for peaceful parenting at 10,000 feet.
  • Putting a public face on “holistic” — Being public about her convictions is a must for Jessica at Crunchy-Chewy Mama, but it takes some delicacy.
  • Just Be; Just Do. — Amy at Anktangle believes strongly about her parenting methods, and also that the way to get people to take notice is to simply live her life and parent the best she knows how.
  • One Parent at a Time… — Kat at Loving {Almost} Every Moment believes that advocating for Natural Parenting is best accomplished by walking the walk.
  • Self-compassion — We’re great at caring for and supporting others —from our kiddos to other mamas — but Lisa at Gems of Delight shares a post about treating ourselves with that same sense of compassion.
  • Using Montessori Principles to Advocate Natural Parenting — Deb Chitwood at Living Montessori Now tells how she uses Montessori principles to be a compassionate advocate for natural parenting.
  • Advocacy? Me? — Seonaid at The Practical Dilettante discovers that by “just doing her thing,” she may be advocating for natural parenting.
  • Feeding by Example — Mama Mo at Attached at the Nip shares her experience of being the first one of her generation to parent.
  • Compassionate Consumerism — Erica at ChildOrganics encourages her children to be compassionate consumers and discusses the benefits of buying local and fair trade products.
  • The Importance of Advocating Compassionately — Kristen at Adventures in Mommyhood acts as a compassionate advocate by sharing information with many in the hopes of reaching a few.
  • Some Thoughts on Gentle Discipline — Darcel at The Mahogany Way shares her thoughts and some tips on Gentle Discipline.
  • Compassionate Advocacy: Sharing Resources, Spreading the Love — Terri at Child of the Nature Isle shares how her passion for making natural choices in pregnancy, birth, and parenting have supported others in Dominica and beyond.
  • A journey to compassion and connection — Jessica at Instead of Institutions shares her journey from know-it-all to authentic advocacy.
  • Advocacy Through Openness, Respect, and Understanding — Melissa at The New Mommy Files describes her view on belief, and how it has shaped the way she advocates for gentle parenting choices.
  • Why I’m not an advocate for Natural Parenting — Mrs Green at Little Green Blog delivers the shocking news that, after 10 years of being a mum, she is NOT an advocate for natural parenting!
  • Carnival of Natural Parenting: Compassionate Advocacy — Even in the progressive SF Bay Area, Lily at Witch Mom finds she must defend some of her parenting choices.
  • A Tale of Four Milky Mamas — In this post The ArtsyMama shares how she has found ways to repay her childhood friend for the gift of milk.
  • don’t tell me what to do — Pecky at benny and bex demonstrates compassionate advocacy through leading by example.

Project Simplify- You Pick, week #5


We’ve made it to the final week of the Project Simplify challenge. It has really made a difference in our home. So this week we got to pick our own hot spot. I chose our arts/crafts  homeschooling area. The crayons, fabric scraps and glue sticks seem to have a mind of their own and were trying to take over. I had to take control and put them back in their right place. I really like to keep the space on top of the shelves cleared off, but that hasn’t been working out so great. So I tackled the flat surfaces first then worked from there. The end results were awesome, I’m very pleased.
Thank you Simple Mom for hosting Project Simplify!!