No Cry Parenting Solutions

At some point in your career as a parent so far, I”m sure you’ve struggled with getting your little one to sleep. Whether it’s getting them into a routine at night or getting them to stay asleep, Elizabeth Pantley has been a life saver to many parents with her original book The No Cry Sleep Solution. She has expanded her expertise into topics such as discipline and potty training. She has a lot of great resources on her new website, including downloadable charts and excerpts from her books.
On a personal note, I have used Elizabeth Pantley’s articles in our ChildOrganics newsletters in the past. With what I have read, I have found her advice to be right in line with being a loving, involved parent. She is also a very generous person. I contacted her years ago to ask if she’d be willing to donate to our local La Leche League fundraiser. She came through with a very generous offer of several of her autographed books. I have recently been struggling with diaper changes with my youngest. I went to her new website, and looked into the topic further. I liked what she had to say about stopping the diaper changing struggle and turning it into bonding time.
Here is a sample from her book:

Gentle Baby CareNo-cry, No-fuss, No-worry — Essential Tips for Raising Your Baby
Stop The Diaper Changing Battles
Babies are little bundles of energy! They don’t want to lie still to have their diapers changed. They cry, fuss, or even crawl away. A simple issue can turn into a major tug-of-war between parent and baby.
Diaper changing as a ritual
The position of parent and baby during a diaper change is perfect for creating a bonding experience between you. You are leaning over your baby, and your face is at the perfect arms-length distance for engaging eye contact and communication. What’s more, this golden opportunity presents itself many times during each day; no matter how busy you both get, you have a few moments of quiet connection. It’s too valuable a ritual to treat it as simply maintenance.
Learning about your baby
Diapering offers a perfect opportunity for you to truly absorb your baby’s cues and signals. You’ll learn how his little body works, what tickles him, what causes those tiny goose bumps. As you lift, move, and touch your baby, your hands will learn the map of his body and what’s normal for him. This is important because it will enable you to easily decipher any physical changes that need attention.
Developing trust
Regular diaper changes create rhythm in your baby’s world and afford the sense that the world is safe and dependable. They are regular and consistent episodes in days that may not always be predictable. Your loving touches teach your baby that he is valued, and your gentle care teaches him that he is respected.
A learning experience for your baby
Your baby does a lot of learning during diaper changes. It’s one of the few times that she actually sees her own body without clothes when she can feel her complete movements without a wad of diaper between her legs. Diaper-off time is a great chance for her to stretch her limbs and learn how they move.
During changing time, your baby is also a captive audience to your voice, so she can focus on what you are saying and how you are saying it — an important component of her language learning process. Likewise, for a precious few minutes, you are her captive audience, so you can focus on what she’s saying and how she is saying it — crucial to the growth of your relationship.
What your baby thinks and feels
Many active babies could not care less if their diapers are clean. They’re too busy to concern themselves with such trivial issues. It may be important to you, but it’s not a priority for your child.
Diaper rash or uncomfortable diapers (wrong size or bad fit) can make him dread diaper changes, so check these first. Once you’re sure all the practical issues are covered, make a few adjustments in this unavoidable process to make it more enjoyable.
Take a deep breath
Given the number of diapers you have to change, it’s possible that what used to be a pleasant experience for you has gotten to be routine, or even worse, a hassle. When parents approach diaper changing in a brisk, no-nonsense way, it isn’t any fun for Baby. Try to reconnect with the bonding experience that diaper changing can be — a moment of calm in a busy day when you share one-on-one time with your baby.
This is a great time to sing songs, blow tummy raspberries, or do some tickle and play. A little fun might take the dread out of diaper changes for both of you. A game that stays fresh for a long time is “hide the diaper.” Put a new diaper on your head, on your shoulder, or tucked in your shirt and ask, “Where’s the diaper? I can’t find it!” A fun twist is to give the diaper a name and a silly voice and use it as a puppet. Let the diaper call your child to the changing station and have it talk to him as you change it. (If you get tired of making Mister Diaper talk, just remember what it was like before you tried the idea.)
Use distraction
Keep a flashlight with your changing supplies and let your baby play with it while you change him. Some kids’ flashlights have a button to change the color of the light or shape of the ray. Call this his “diaper flashlight” and put it away when the change is complete. You may find a different type of special toy that appeals to your little one, or even a basket of small interesting toys. If you reserve these only for diaper time, they can retain their novelty for a long time.
Try a stand-up diaper
If your baby’s diaper is just wet (not messy), try letting her stand up while you do a quick change. If you’re using cloth diapers, have one leg pre-pinned so that you can slide it on like pants, or opt for pre-fitted diapers that don’t require pins.
Time to potty train?
If your child is old enough and seems ready for the next step, consider potty training. Excerpted with permission by McGraw-Hill Publishing from Gentle Baby Care (McGraw-Hill 2003).


Childbirth in the US compared to Japan

Here’s a cute quote I found:

“The midwife considers the miracle of childbirth as normal, and leaves it alone unless there’s trouble. The obstetrician normally sees childbirth as trouble: if he leaves it alone, it’s a miracle.”
— Sheila Stubbs
In my class last night we discussed how the U.S. is about 24th in infant mortality. That makes me very sad. We spend the most money on health care but our infant mortality rate continues to get worse.
Who has the lowest mortality rate? Japan. They only spend about half as much money on healthcare.
What are some of the things that they do differently? Well, Pregnant women are free to choose their hospital and physician without any restrictions placed on them. They also have early prenatal care. Their high rate of breastfeeding mothers also plays a role. It’s pretty much known that on a worldwide scale that death among breastfed babies is much less common than formula fed infants. Over 90% of Japan’s mothers breastfeed, and more than half of them breastfeed exclusively.
Back to our quote at the top of this entry. Midwifery plays an important role in Japan’s success. The main birth attendants there are midwives. In many European countries, this is the “norm”. Where midwifery care is practiced there is a dramatically lower rate of medical intervention. Sadly in the U.S., it is estimated that only 3-4% of births are attended by midwives.
I think we have a lot to learn from these facts. If you’d like to learn more please visit this article

WVLT VOLUNTEER TV Knoxville, TN: Mothers Urged to Breastfeed Longer

I was happy to hear that breastfeeding made the local news. The facts are overwhelming in support of exclusive breastfeeding for at least the first 6 months of life. This benefits the mother and child in so many ways.

WVLT VOLUNTEER TV Knoxville, TN: Mothers Urged to Breastfeed Longer

View the new AAP recommendations here:
AAP releases revises breastfeeding recommendations