About us

I call us the incredible morphing family. It started with me and my first husband Ian  (How I hate calling him that), then came along our first bundle of joy, BIG Z. We created ChildOrganics as a way for me to quit my job as an educational Sign Language interpreter and stay home with my baby. I had a passion for all things natural parenting and become a Bradley childbirth instructor and La Leche League leader.
 ian and bella
A few short years later, in 2006 our world was rocked by our sweet baby, Bella. She was born with what we now know was Walker-Warburg Syndrome. It’s characterized by congenital muscular dystrophy, blindness, hydrocephalus and brain malformations. ( see I quietly put my hopes to rest) Despite these trials, we remained true to our values of living a conscious life and making healthy natural choices for our family. Sadly, Bella was only with us for a short 16 months until she died in May of 2007.  Then…Surprise! We were blessed with a spunky little boy in 2009, Lil’ Z. We had a most wonderful homebirth after Cesarean. (see Little Brother’s birth story)
My time with grief wasn’t over yet, in 2012 my dear husband Ian died suddenly. (see Without Dad–One Year Later ) Leaving me as a single mom of two children. As you can see, my life has been a roller coaster of ups and downs.
I like to think I’m on an upswing at the moment. I remarried in 2015 to a wonderful man, (who the kids have nicknamed Poos) with a similar experience in losing a beloved mate. He has two kids, who we lovingly refer to as Perry and Pee Wee. Put us all together and we have a fantastically crazy blended family. Grief is something we deal with on an almost daily basis, it’s become part of our daily lives. However, we don’t let it overtake us. We make it our goal to live a simple life, make healthy conscious choices and respect people and nature. I call it organic living.
kd family
 So not only has my family been incredible and morphing, so has my blog.. well, at least, the morphing part. While it originally started as info to support my natural parenting store and to share with other parents whose child suffered with Walker-Warburg Syndrome it has been an outlet for so much more. We hope you’ll enjoy our adventures in organic learning, organic living, and organic loving.

My How Friends Change

Welcome to the August 2014 Carnival of Natural Parenting: Friends This post was written for inclusion in the monthly Carnival of Natural Parenting hosted by Code Name: Mama and Hobo Mama. This month our participants have shared stories and wisdom about friends. ***

I remember a long time ago receiving a phone call from a dear friend. At this time, I was recently married and had moved away to a different state. This friend called to tell me she had a miscarriage. I didn’t know how to handle the news, I avoided calling her, I felt awful, but didn’t know how to address the situation. As a result, I lost that friendship. I look back and feel pretty awful about the kind of friend I ended up being. I wasn’t supportive, I wasn’t there for her. As a result, we lost touch and aren’t in each other’s lives. I’ve tried to find her since then and I haven’t had any success in locating her. I’d like to apologize for my behavior. I’d like to tell her that I didn’t know how to handle her loss at that time. I’d like her to know I’ve learned a lot since then. In recent times, the situation has been turned. Initially with the chronic diagnosis of my middle daughter, her death 16 months later, then with the sudden death of my husband, my true friends have revealed themselves. For many people, loss makes them feel uncomfortable. They are afraid they will say the wrong things, they have their own fears in relation to loss and grief. It may be hard to handle when people we considered close friends start to ignore us when our life is in such turmoil. It’s easy to feel offended, but it really doesn’t do any good. If it makes you feel better, write a letter. Share your anger, your frustrations and your feelings over their lack of support. Then whatever you do, DON’T send it. The letter will be purely for your benefit. Emotionally they may have checked out of your relationship, but you don’t need to play a part in the disconnect. Hopefully, they will have a change of heart and become supportive in the future. For myself, I didn’t know how to be truly supportive to others through their losses until I had experienced some loss myself. Don’t give up hope, there are friends and family members that will stick with you throughout your grief. They’ll be there with your ups and downs. These are the friends to hold close. I’ve lost friends and family members because of the loss we’ve experienced. They have allowed, for the time being, fear and denial to be their friends. Their perspective may change as mine did. Death can bring out the best and worst in people. New friends will reveal themselves and people that you thought would be there will fail in your eyes. It’s all part of the grief, it’s another loss. Pity parties won’t do us any good, keep your chin up and thank God for the friends that are there for you. So if you have a friend that is dealing with grief, be there. If you don’t know what to say, give them a hug. Say something, do something. Let them know you are there even if it makes you feel uncomfortable. Talk about the person that has passed. It’s nice to know that you are not the only one that still remembers them. Many people make the mistake of thinking they can’t mention the deceased. How silly, we didn’t forget they died. It’s nice to know that others didn’t forget either. Send a text, write an email, make a phone call. Send flowers. Bring a meal. Take out their trash. Just set next to them. Grief is exhausting. If they are a parent, offer to let them take a nap while you watch the kids. It’s not what you do that is so important, it’s the fact that you are there. As for the friends and family, that stood by your side through thick and thin. Be ever so grateful for their presence in your life. For the most part, I’ve learned to be thankful for all of my friends throughout my life. We were friends for a purpose, even if it was for a short time that gave me a few smiles. I’ve learned to really cherish my friends. I have some pretty spectacular friends, thank you to all of you!! Have you lost friends while going through a particularly stressful situation? How did you deal with it?


Carnival of Natural Parenting -- Hobo Mama and Code Name: MamaVisit Code Name: Mama and Hobo Mama to find out how you can participate in the next Carnival of Natural Parenting! Please take time to read the submissions by the other carnival participants:

(This list will be updated by afternoon August 12 with all the carnival links.)

  • Sibling Revelry — At Natural Parents Network, Amy W. shares her joy in witnessing the growth of the friendship between her two young children.
  • Making New Mama Friends — Jennifer at Hybrid Rasta Mama muses on how she was able to connect with like-minded mamas and form deep friendships both in ‘real life’ and online. Learn how these life-long friendships, both between Jennifer and other mothers but also between Jennifer’s daughter and the other children, formed and flourished.
  • Family, Friends and Family Friends — Vidya Sury at Vidya Sury, Going A-Musing, Collecting Smiles is reflecting on family friendships, past and present.
  • Arranging friendships in a modern world — From a free-range childhood to current parenthood, how can an introvert like Lauren at Hobo Mama navigate the newly complicated scheduling of playdates and mom friends?
  • Mommy Blogs: Where Moms Make Friends — Mothers make friends with other mothers in new ways. The options from earlier decades remain, but new avenues have sprung up with mommy bloggers. Laurie Hollman, Ph.D. at Parental Intelligence shares her thoughts.
  • Friendship and Sacrifice: Guardians of the Galaxy — Shay at 4HisGlory learned that friendship lessons can be found in unlikely places, like blockbuster summer movies.
  • Friendship – Finding, Forming, Keeping, and WishingLife Breath Present‘s thoughts on finding, forming, keeping, and wishing for friendships as an introv
  • Consciously Creating My Community: Monthly Dinners — How have you intentionally created community? Dionna at Code Name: Mama‘s goal for the year is to cultivate community. One way she’s done that is to help organize two different monthly dinners with friends.
  • Adults need imaginary friends, too — Tat at Mum in Search shares why it’s a good idea for adults to have imaginary friends. You get to meet Tat’s friend and download a playbook to create your own.
  • Friends Near, Friends Far — Kellie at Our Mindful Life helps her kids keep in touch with friends 600 miles apart.
  • Which comes first, social skills or social life? — Jorje of Momma Jorje frets about whether her daughter can learn social skills without experience, but how to get good experience without social skills.
  • Snail Mail Revival — Skype isn’t the only way to stay in touch with long distance friends, That Mama Gretchen and her family are breaking out the envelopes and stamps these days!
  • Montessori-Inspired Friendship Activities — Deb Chitwood at Living Montessori Now shares a roundup of Montessori-inspired friendship activities for home or classroom.
  • How I used the internet to make local friends — After years of striking out at the park, Crunchy Con Mom finally found some great local friends . . . online!
  • My How Friends Change — Erica at ChildOrganics knows entirely too much about how to comfort a friend after a loss.